My son, Ryan, and I love taking the time to go to the basketball court and shoot some hoops.
It’s interesting what he does almost after every shot – he discreetly looks at me to see how I would react.
Almost every time, I try to give him a thumbs up sign to encourage him, whether he makes the shot or not.
According to a research experiment published in Psychological Science which was led by Lysann Damisch of the University of Cologne in Germany, a dexterity task that normally took more than 5 minutes was accomplished in just over 3 minutes, on average, if participants received an encouraging luck message before they started.
Dads, you have the power within your reach to encourage your children – a word, a smile or a simple thumbs up sign will go a long long way.
Here’s a list of encouraging words you may add to your everyday conversations with your kids. (Taken from Parenting Exchange by Karen Stephens)
• Your skills are really improving; you’ve outdone yourself today!
• How kind of you to share toys with your friend.That’s very generous.
• You are taking such good care of your pet. He’s so lucky to have you!
• Now THAT’S what I call a thorough job! Thanks for picking up your toys.
• That’s a great effort; don’t worry about that small mistake.
• Keep at it; I know you’ll figure it out. How can I help?
• You are such a good learner! I’m impressed by your concentration.
• I remember when you were first learning that. You’ve come a long way.
• You’re so fun around the house; life would be boring without you!
• What would I have done without you today? Thanks for cleaning the house with me.
• I’m so proud to tell people I’m your mom (dad).
• It’s wonderful to see you so happy with your performance.
• I appreciate your attention to detail. You are one sharp cookie.
• Your patience is commendable. Keep at it; I know you’ll get it yet.
• You’re doing a great job of controlling your anger.
• You’re on the right track! That’s using your brain.
• Hey, you’re getting the hang of it! Your practice is really paying off.
• Your attitude is a very respectful attitude. I appreciate that.
• How sensitive you are to your brother’s feelings.
• I love your sense of humor. How do you think up those jokes?
• You hang in there when the going gets tough. You’re a strong person.
• Look how much progress you’ve made.You should be proud.
• What a good memory you have. That effort deserves a high five!
• I really enjoyed your performance. No one could have done it better.
• Keep trying; I know you can work this frustrating problem out.
• How calm you were when you got that bad news. You are really maturing.
• It’s a real gift to me when you do your chores without being reminded.
• I have to hand it to you; you did exactly what you set out to do.
• Congratulations, you can be proud of your achievement!