My 9 year old Ryan loves sports – from baseball to basketball, and recently, football to ping pong.

The other day, while I stayed with him during his basketball practice, he felt very discouraged because of the team mates he had. Not only that a couple of them were ball hogs, moreover, they would react negatively when Ryan would miss a shot. Because of this, he felt very discouraged.

Sports give a lot of life lessons. It teaches a lot about character and attitude.

Here were the things I shared with him.

1. There will always be people who will discourage you, whether intentionally or inadvertently.

There are those who feel like it’s their calling in life to be negative and discourage everyone they encounter.

2. When someone discourages you, you have a choice if you will allow it to dishearten you or not.

Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional.

3. Failing doesn’t make you a failure.

Failure is only for those who quit.

He didn’t really feel better right away. Eventually he did. But the words I shared with him was not to make him feel better. It was truth. And it will continue to be true whether in basketball or in life.

What made him feel better later on though was french fries. Haha. French fries or ice cream usually does it for him.