We are continuing the series on talking about sex to your sons.
Insights come from chapter 4 (The Virtues of Manhood) of Steve Zollos’ book, “Time for the Talk.”
1. Your young man needs convictions and they can’t come from you. Convictions come from hearing the voice of God. They come from having a holy fear of God and knowing in your heart of hearts his will for you. Convictions allow a man to steady his walk in order to stay on the narrow road that leads to life.
“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. (Eph. 4:21-24)
2. Here’s the challenge: Like Adam, we are required to be perfectly blameless and completely holy in our obedience to God. The problem is that none of us ever do this perfectly.
So if we are sure to fail from time to time, yet God calls us to be perfectly holy, what does it mean to walk as a man before God?
It means that we must put our trust completely in the finished work of Jesus Christ, who alone can make us holy and pure.
3. Six Key Virtues for Men
- HUMILITY. To pursue humility means choosing to accept the fact that your knowledge and abilities are limited, and in light of that, you are regularly seeking help and graciously receiving advice and correction.“This is the one I esteem: he who is humble and contrite in spirit, and trembles at my word (Is. 66:2).
- COURAGE: To pursue courage means choosing to do what is right despite the opposition of others or of your own desires (often the more difficult enemy to fight).“Be on guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong (1 Cor. 16:13).”
- PURITY: To pursue moral purity means choosing to live by the highest moral principles in both speech and physical relations, despite your own desires to do otherwise, and despite any external pressure to compromise.“How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word (Ps. 119:9).
- FAITHFULNESS: To pursue faithfulness means acting in integrity, keeping your word, and doing what is right before God, with fortitude and without complaint, because you trust God to give you the ability to complete all he has given you to do.“A faithful man will be richly blessed.” (Pr. 28:20)
- SELFLESSNESS. To pursue selflessness means placing the well-being of others before your own needs and desires.“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3)
- SELF-CONTROL. To pursue self-control means to live according to the Spirit of God, choosing to glorify God with our lives and deny the sinful nature when tempted to do otherwise.“Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8)