I had a family huddle with 2 of my kids one night.  We were discussing the value of sacrifice. I was trying to explain that we can’t always get what we want.  Unfortunately, life is unfair at times and that’s just the reality of things.

One of my kids wanted to be picked up from school later than usual but that would mean having the car go back instead of just riding with carpool mates. Because we were trying to figure out the best way to become better stewards of what God has given, Jenn and I decided to make a decision to go with car pool for that day instead of the car going back again for the pick up.

Sacrifice is giving up something you value which may cause short term loss but in exchange for greater gain.

Society today has taught our children instant gratification.

We want what we want… and we want it NOW!

Teaching our kids that they can’t always get what they want is a good lesson to learn early in life.  Why?  Because that’s just how life works.

The earlier they learn this lesson, the better it is for them for it will save them from the many frustrations and heart aches circumstances may bring because many of them are way beyond our control.

John 10:15. “…just as my Father knows me and I know the Father. So I sacrifice my life for the sheep.”


Jenn and I shared at the Parenting Seminar in Victory Greenhills last Saturday. There was one point when a discussion came up regarding identity.

“How you see your children greatly affects how they see themselves.”

We may try to ignore, neglect and even disagree with the statement but seeing this in the lives of people we’ve encountered only validates it. Coupled with it are surveys and research through the years.

“You will never amount to anything.”
“You’ll end up just like your dad … a lazy bum.”
“No matter how hard you try, you’ll always be a failure.”

These words pierce like a dagger and hurt like fresh wound.

The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. (Proverbs 18:21)

As parents, we have the power to bring life in our children’s situations or sentence death to their futures.